I was thinking about one of the principles Jesus taught - we must remove the mote in our own eye before we can effectively help others see more clearly. Then I read a post this morning where the author stated that 50% of all women in the US are a size 16 or more.
Many of us let "body size" stand in the way of our own progress. For some people, they feel uncomfortable or give less credit to people who are larger sized.
The media would have us believe that to be successful and have something worth sharing, we need to be a size 4 or less and be proficient at yoga. We accept the h
ype as truth and allow others to make us feel ashamed.
For those who are larger sized, it's easy to hold back, smother our own light, and be afraid to draw attention to ourselves. We settle for sitting back in the corner when we were meant to shine.
I truly believe that each person has a gift to share and others are hoping, praying, and seeking help from that person. Yes, others may have a similar message but no one else has YOUR message with YOUR story, YOUR experiences, and YOUR voice.
Maybe you are one of the people with a body the rest of us wish we had... Do you brush off what those larger than you share? Do you find yourself avoiding trainings where the "experts" are larger sized? Do you prejudge their talents, skills, abilities, and what you can learn from them based on body size rather than accomplishments and results?
Or maybe you are larger sized and you prejudge others on their body size rather than their talents, skills, abilities, and what you can learn from them...
I've talked with many speakers who have a desire to speak to larger groups and share from their hearts. But some of them, regardless of how compelling their message is, are letting body size keep them from pursuing this dream. They let body size dictate their success.
Most of us have a "mote" or something in our eyes that distorts our vision and perceptions. Our attitude and openness to learning, sharing, and giving is directly related to our own personal progress and the difference we can make in the world.
Have you ever met a woman who loved everything about her body? I haven't. And although I am confident they do exist, they are a very small minority. There are nice clothes for every size - clothes that can make us look professional, confident, beautiful. No one needs to settle for frumpy or tacky.
Here's my first request: Examine your own beliefs. The next time you dismiss what someone says, reflect back - was it the message or the messenger?
Here's my second request: Focus on your audience and message. Position your message from your audience's point of view. You'll find you will forget yourself and all your own insecurities.
I believe that our prayers are generally answered by other people. Right now, there is someone praying for the solution you offer and the way YOU provide it. Please don't let body size be the excuse that keeps you from helping.
PS It is NOT APPROPRIATE to use this post as a way to market diet, health, and other products in the comment section. However, comments about how our attitudes about how body size affects us in our personal lives are very welcome and appreciated.