One of the most often asked questions by entrepreneurs, solopreneurs, and small business owners is this: Why is Jamie so successful and I'm not? I'm working hard, talking to lots of people, etc., but it just doesn't seem to be working or working as well as it works for Jamie .....
Do you look at other business owners and judge them on:
- how they dress
- what they drive
- what they say about their success
- the image we create of them in our minds (which usually is NOT the reality!)
We compare ourselves against the loudest and most colorful. We take their words and claims to heart, assuming them to be true. How many emails do you get each day by someone who says they are an "expert" or "guru" and will make you rich beyond your wildest dreams if you just buy their system? How many business people have you met at a networking event who talk and look like a very successful person, only to drive by their business a few months later and see the business closed?
Let's look at business owners from a different perspective - people who are truly successful: they make good money, have strong marriages or relationships, spend time with their kids, and give great support and care to their clients or customers.
What is the difference between these people and you? They simply got in line first! Let me explain...
Have any of these things happened to you at the grocery store?
- You got into line but realized you forgot something and had to go back and get it?
- You jumped into what appeared to be the shortest line but each person in front of you either had:
- tons of coupons,
- argued about the prices that came up on the register,
- an item didn't ring up and the clerk had to have someone go back and physically look up the price,
- or the person didn't have enough money so they had to start removing items to get the final bill down?
What happens? Our check out is delayed and we become frustrated!
This same analogy works for our business success model.
- We start with a "list" of things we need
- We get into line
- As we are "checking out", we see items in the carts of others and we decide we need them, too. So we get out of line.
- We search for the new product and get back in line.
- Sometimes we keep going back to get more
- Sometimes we're in a slow line (that wonderful learning curve)
- Sometimes the lane shuts down and we have to move to a new one (a program or product didn't work like we thought)
- And sometimes we have everything we need and we get into the fastest lane where it all comes together for us!
Here's the reality: The people who are more successful than you right now basically got into the fast lane before you did! Most of them had gone through the same painful learning curves that you are going through, but you weren't at the store to see that. You only see the results of them finally being in the fast lane. That's it!
The quickest way to achieve real and lasting success is to talk with those who have reached the pinnacles of success you desire. Ask them if you could take them out to lunch or coffee and pick their brain. Most of them will say yes! (remember, if you don't ask, it's always a NO)
Don't be fooled by the people who pound on their chests and yell about how successful they are.... Spend your time with AND modeling the people who have achieved REAL AND LASTING success. That's how you get - and keep - in the fast lane.
PS If you would like some help with an issue that's holding you back from the fast lane of success, please consider scheduling a 15-phone consultation with me. The first 15 minute consult is always free... You''ll be amazed at the difference these 15 minutes can make. One problem. One solution. Fifteen minutes. Done.